Monday, September 24, 2007

Dating and the Wild World Wide Web


I need to share a dynamic duo of messages from a guy who I met on an internet dating site. I promise that I did not make this up. We "met" online and corresponded a couple times. We set a time to meet in person. My friend spied a wedding ring in one of his profile photos, and I asked him how far along he was in his divorce proceedings. Suddenly, he canceled, saying he wasn't ready to date anyone. I sent back a brief, conciliatory note, saying to take his time. However, I did ask him why was he on an internet dating site, and that I wasn't expecting him to answer.

And then.....[drumroll, please!]......I received the following two messages:


"From: H--------3
Date Received: September 13
Subject: I have a problem lying

Hi [name removed],

I need to tell you the truth. My wife and I separated on August 16, 2007. I told her that we needed to work on our underlying issues. I told her that I would go to therapy once a week to deal with my lying regarding flirting with other women, pot smoking, and cigarette smoking. I just can't help lying.

On that day, I told my wife that I would not date or see other people and I hoped she would not do the same. The separation was an investment so that in the long run our relationship would be better. The next day, after she moved, I started writing my profile for match.com.

The Friday before we made our date, my wife called and asked me if I wanted to still adhere to our guideline of not dating anyone. Right away, I told her "yes." I told her that I wasn't dating anyone and I didn't want her to date anyone either. She had no idea about me being on match.com.

I want to date girls and have my wife on the side. At a very early age, I learned what women want to hear and I tell them it. I have no respect for women. My therapist says it is because I have never developed an authentic self.

You deserve better than me. You deserve someone who is honest and respects you/women. Be relieved that you never met me.

The reason I emailed you and cancelled our date was because my wife's friend saw my picture on match.com. I got caught and had to back out quick. My therapist is so disgusted he can't even speak."


The quick followup message:

"From: H-------3
Date Received: September 13
Subject: oops one last thing

I forgot one last truth.

The first two pictures of my profile were taken on May 25, 2007 by my wife. We were in Antigua celebrating our 5 year anniversary by renewing our vows!

I am such a liar."


He works in the Cannon Building (I know for whom), and I accidentally ran into him on the street the next day. Either he didn't see me or pretended not to see me.



4 comments:

LJ said...

This whole story is just bizarre. One of those things so awful you just have to laugh almost. Kudos for you for your grace in the most random of situations, and for knowing that not all guys out there are like mister-not-so-suave-and-constant-liar. Xoxo.

SciWonk said...

LJ, you're right. Gotta know when to hold 'em. Know when to fold 'em. Know when to walk away; know when to run! There are many people out there (men and women) with problems. Serious problems.

M. Bailey said...

You realize it is most likely he did not write this email to you, rather, his jilted wife did, right? When viewed in that context, it's pretty darned funny. I only laugh because I am qualified.

Cheers!

SciWonk said...

Looking back at this message,I think that Bailey's correct. Seems like something a woman would write. Good inference!